During my divorce hearing, my husband leaned over and said, “Choose one of our three sons. I’ll take the other two.” Our boys laughed behind him like it was some kind of joke. I reached for my daughter’s hand and simply said, “None.” Richard’s pen slipped from his fingers, his face turning completely pale, just as the judge slammed his gavel and called for the bailiff to secure the courtroom.

At our divorce hearing in a crowded, aggressively air-conditioned family courtroom in Columbus, Ohio, my husband leaned back in his leather chair. He crossed one expensive, custom-made Italian loafer over the other and smiled. It was the serene, untouchable smile of a man who believed that twenty-two years of marriage were just another corporate negotiation he fully expected to win.