My ex-mother-in-law applauded outside the courthouse after the judge finalized our divorce, then led the family off to celebrate my embarrassment. But when they returned to the family home, their laughter stopped—the sheriff was there, their belongings were on the lawn, and the house belonged to me legally.

But memories are not deeds.

My grandmother, Ruth Caldwell, bought that house fourteen years earlier, when I was twenty-three and working two jobs. She had watched my mother lose everything in a cruel divorce, so she told me, “Never live in a place a man can take away from you.”