At my wedding, my grandfather handed me an old passbook. My father quickly took it and said, “That bank shut down in the ’80s—he’s just confused.” Not long after, my grandfather passed away. Still, I decided to visit the bank anyway. The manager reviewed the records, looked up at me, and said, “Sir… you might want to sit down…”

“Touch that rag, old man, and I’ll put you in a state home so fast you won’t even have time to pack your pills.”

My grandfather froze. His face tightened with a kind of grief that I still don’t have words for.

I scrubbed until my knuckles went raw that day. I scrubbed because I believed I had no value outside of what I could endure.