At my brother’s rehearsal dinner, I arrived with my 6-year-old daughter. My mom pulled me aside and coldly said: “Emma isn’t the flower girl anymore. It changed.” So we stayed silent. Then my father texted me: “Meet me on the porch. Right now.” What he said in front of everyone left my brother and mother without a single word.

She studied my eyes with that unnerving, ancient wisdom children sometimes project. “Okay.”

“The job of the flower girl shifted just a tiny bit. There is another little girl from Madison’s family who is going to hold the flower basket for Uncle Ryan today.”