The day of my father’s funeral, my “loyal” wife took my credit cards and flew her entire family to a 5-star resort in Bali, texting me: “Don’t be a killjoy, he’s already gone anyway.” I spent the week in silence. When they returned to the driveway, sunburnt and exhausted, they didn’t find a home—they found a demolition crew and a single suitcase waiting on the curb.

The air inside the sprawling, six-bedroom colonial was suffocating, thick with the cloying, aggressively sweet scent of Casablanca lilies. They were arranged in massive crystal vases on the mahogany dining table, the kitchen island, and the entryway console. But they weren’t for my father, Henry, whose lungs were failing in a sterile hospice room ten miles away. They were for the “Spring Soiree” my wife, Miranda, insisted on hosting three days after we received his terminal diagnosis.