At our $4,500-a-plate anniversary gala, my husband grabbed our wedding cake and smashed it into my face in front of 400 elite guests, roaring, “Try some dessert, pauper!” The ballroom laughed at my humiliation. I calmly wiped the buttercream from my eyes. Seconds later, two federal agents stormed the ballroom, and his triumphant grin collapsed into sheer terror.

He sneered as I approached, leaning the microphone toward me as if inviting a plea for forgiveness. “Got something to say, ‘Honey’? Want to thank me for the dessert? Or maybe you want to beg for a new dress?”

I didn’t take the microphone. I leaned in close, my lips inches from his ear, smelling the expensive scotch and the cheap arrogance on his breath. I could see the individual pores on his flushed face.