I asked my sister if I could stay at her place for three nights because I was having surgery for a brain tumor, and she replied: “Not a chance, you’re coming out of the hospital full of bacteria; pay for a hotel like any other adult.” She lived in the condo whose mortgage I had been paying for three years… so I hung up, canceled her $1,500 monthly payment, blocked her secondary credit card, and waited for her perfectly clean apartment to try and pay the bank.

Mariela lost the condo months later. Not because I wanted to see her on the street, but because there was no longer anyone to sustain a life she could never afford. The bank restructured part of the debt after discovering irregularities, but she couldn’t even cover that. She sold furniture, handbags, expensive lamps, and everything she once called an “aesthetic investment.” For the first time, I saw her face a consequence without someone stepping in for her. She sent me a long message: “I hope you’re happy. You took my home.” I replied with a single line: “No, Mariela. I stopped paying for the home you claimed was yours.”