On Mother’s Day, in front of our entire extended family, my mom raised her glass, looked me straight in the eye, and announced to the room, “I wish you’d never been my daughter.” I stood up, answered, “Then live as if you never had one,” and drove away in my SUV. By the next morning, my phone was ringing nonstop—and suddenly, the same relatives who sat in silence desperately wanted me to answer.

A sharp ping from my laptop shattered the silence.

It was a notification from Facebook Messenger. I had blocked their phone numbers, but I had forgotten the extended family group chat. The preview of the message flashed on the screen. It was from Aunt Patricia.