My husband had been “working in Portugal” for five months, but my four-year-old son whispered to me while I was tucking him in: “Mom, Daddy sleeps under the kitchen and comes out when you leave.” I thought it was just a dream… until I hid a camera next to the refrigerator and saw that, at 9:27, a floor tile lifted up from below. And the hand that came out first wasn’t my husband’s.

“Good Daddy and hole Daddy?” he asked.

It broke my heart, but I didn’t correct him with a simple answer. “Daddy did bad things, and he was also very scared. Both things can be true.”