I asked my sister if I could stay at her apartment for three nights because I was going to have surgery in New York City, and she replied: “Bring hospital bacteria into my house? You’re better off paying for a hotel, don’t be a freeloader.” I laughed, hung up, and canceled the recurring transfer I had been using to pay her mortgage for years… but when I got to the hospital, I discovered that she wasn’t just living off my money: she had also used my name to take out a loan that could leave me without medical treatment.

I let out a joyless laugh. “I was even useful to you dead.”

My mom slapped her. The hallway fell dead silent. Rebecca brought her hand to her face, more shocked than hurt. My mom, who had spent her entire life trying to keep the peace, finally understood that peace couldn’t be built on my back.