My husband made $300,000 a year, but every two weeks he transferred everything to his mother, while I paid for the mortgage, the car, the groceries, and even his office shirts. The night my card was declined for an $8 soup and I saw that there was only $1.40 left in our joint account, I accepted an eight-month project in Toronto, canceled his credit cards, moved all the bills to his account… and turned off my phone before boarding the plane.

The eight months in Toronto ended, and they offered me another year. Before, I would have called Andrew to ask for his opinion, as if my life needed domestic authorization. This time, I signed alone. I rented a small apartment with a view of a tree-lined street, bought a pot, two plates, and a thick blanket. Nothing was luxurious, but everything was mine.