On Father’s Day, I was eating lunch alone, waiting for my son to call, when my bank flagged a $35,000 charge on my corporate card. Connor had bought a Chrysler for his father-in-law without saying a word to me. When I called him, he simply snapped: > “You have more than enough money, don’t be selfish.”

Eleanor looked down at her lap. She knew it too. Maybe not every detail, but enough of them.