I asked my sister if I could crash at her place for three nights because I was having surgery for a brain tumor, and she replied: “Are you crazy? You’re coming straight from the hospital full of bacteria; go get a hotel room like a normal adult.”

She sent me a long text message: “I hope you’re happy. You took my home away from me.” I replied with a single line: “No, Vanessa. I just stopped paying for the home you claimed you built yourself.”