My daughter married a wealthy developer when she was twenty-one. She hasn’t been back home to Ohio for twelve years, but every single year, she sends exactly $100,000. This Christmas, I decided to fly out and visit her in secret. When I opened the front door of her California estate… I froze in my tracks.

She sat down, picked up her spoon, and stared at the soup, her eyes red. She ate in total silence, savoring each sip as if it were a distant memory of home. I sat across from her—so close, yet feeling like we were oceans apart.