My eight-year-old daughter sent me five voice notes, crying: “Daddy, I am so cold… Victoria will not let me change.” When I got home, my wife was asleep, the heater was turned off, and Emma was no longer responding.

A doctor asked me, “Are you Emma’s father?”

“Yes.”

“We need you to give a full statement. This is severe child abuse.”

I nodded. I wanted to say “I did not know.” But I was too ashamed. Because not knowing can also be a form of abandonment when it is your obligation to see.