“My house, my rules,” my daughter-in-law said as she took back the spare key, expecting me to stay with the children while she and my son went away for the weekend.

We found some ordinary conversations again. He told me about a client project, and I told him what Martha had said at book club. He didn’t always ask about me first, but he began leaving room for an answer. I didn’t interpret a pleasant call as proof the old pattern could never return. I paid attention to whether he asked before making plans that involved me.